Abu Hurairah narrated that a man asked Holy Prophet (s.a.w): “Who is most worthy of my good treatment? He answered: Your Mother. The man asked: Who comes next? And he answered: Your mother. The man then asked again: Who comes next? And he answered: Your mother. The man then inquired a fourth time, and he answered: Your father. (Bukhari and Muslim)
The Holy Prophet (s.a.w): “Any one, who has daughters and is kind to them, will find that on the Day of Judgment, they will serve as a shield for him against Hell.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
I’ve been meaning to put up something related to women in Islam for quite a while. But I haven’t really had the time to make a thorough research on it. Now seems to be a good time. People ask me all the time, non-Muslims and even Muslims sometimes, “Why do you wear ‘tudung'(hijab) naz?” It can be a tricky question to answer to non-Muslims but for Muslims, they should know that the only reason would be no other than… ” … because of Allah.” I’m not saying I’m the perfect example of a Muslim woman, in fact I’m far from reaching that but most importantly, I try to be. Sometimes I have a tough time answering questions like, “Why do some Muslim women wear hijab and others don’t?” To me it’s rather simple, it could only be from the 3 as follows. Firstly, they weren’t brought up in a proper Islamic approach. Secondly, they have not received Allah’s hidayah and are still searching. And last but most importantly, they just don’t practice Islam as much as they admit to be a Muslim. The saddest would be the latter.
A good example to explain this to non-Muslims would be one I collected from this book I own entitled, “20 Most Common Questions About Islam” by Dr. Zakir Abdul-Karim Naik in his example of twin sisters. He wrote in his book, suppose two sisters namely twins, identical and equally beautiful walk down the street. The only way of telling them apart was how they dressed. One, completely covered as required in Islam while the other decides to adorn herself with western clothing, mini skirt and a fitting top to go with. Along the corner, a hooligan awaits for a catch. Whom will he tease? The girl wearing the Islamic hijab or the girl in mini? Naturally, you would know of the answer. This goes to show that the way a woman carries herself plays an important role in not only her dignity but safety as well.
Islam has restored a woman’s dignity and humanity as a human being who deserves to be respected and not be regarded as an object or a symbol of entertainment. An Evening News staff writer, Cynthia Ramnarance wrote in her article, “Just because a Muslim woman is wearing a head scarf, it doesn’t mean she can’t speak English. It doesn’t mean she is uneducated. It doesn’t mean she is oppressed.” I couldn’t agree more. Most people look down upon this party thus considering them as second class citizens. In some countries like Saudia Arabia, it might be true that women are disadvantaged because of their gender like not being allowed to drive and such. Although Muslim women in some countries do not share the same social status as men do in some countries, women are highly looked upon as mothers and are regarded as a standing pillar to the development of their children’s well being. Note this, in Islam there is absolutely no difference between men and women as far as their relationship to Allah is concerned, as both are promised the same reward for good conduct and the same punishment for evil conduct. Even the syariah regard women as the spiritual and intellectual equals of men. The Quran says: “And for women are rights over men similar to those of men over women.”
A Hero’s Advice To His Daughters
The following incident took place when Muhammad Ali’s daughters arrived at his home wearing clothes that were not modest. Here is the story as told by one of his daughters:
When we finally arrived, the chauffer escorted my younger sister, Laila, and me up to my father’s suite. As usual, he was hiding behind the door waiting to scare us. We exchanged many hugs and kisses as we could possibly give in one day. My father took a good look at us. Then he sat me down on his lap and said something that I will never forget.
He looked me straight in the eyes and said, “Hana, everything that God made valuable in the world is covered and hard to get to. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You’ve got to work hard to get to them.”
He looked at me with serious eyes. “Your body is sacred. You’re far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too.”
Source: Taken from the book: More Than A Hero: Muhammad Ali’s Life Lessons Through His Daughter’s Eyes.
Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. The men don’t want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the grounds that aren’t as good, but easy. So the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, THEY’RE amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who’s brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.